Mom keeps me from feeling independent, she says I still act like I'm 7

I've just turned 19, I still live with mom though, and have to for a couple of years until I transfer to uni. She is not a complete narcissist or a monster, but she has quite a percentage of it.

To mention a few examples; she tells me what to do even though I am about to do it, she knows I clean every friday, yet she nags me right as I am about to do it. When I'm cooking, last time she turned off the water from the sink right as I was pouring a cup because she thought I was doing it "wrong" even though I've explained to her that 2 liters of water is 8 cups, she said it was "too much". Same when I was boiling pasta, she took the pot right off the stove and poured out the water, for the love of god. I was also explaining to her one day that I always cry with the slightest emotional scene in movies, and she said she was afraid of how I would do on my own because I keep acting like I'm 7.. she always mentions how I can't do anything right, or how I make mistakes, she points out my flaws, is very judgemental even with the slightest thing. I used to want to study criminology and work as a police officer, and she would always tell me "they will destroy you out there, you're too fragile, you won't survive a day, you can't do it" to the point that I quit that dream. When we were at my graduation ceremony, it was pretty crowded and I was looking for the seat number, so I was looking around and stood for a bit to think what to do next, and she started saying "are you going to stand her all day? / are you planning on moving?" as if I were a complete idiot. Same thing when I was looking for a phone case at a mall I'm not familiar with, I stood for 2 seconds to look at where to go next and she said "what are you waiting for?" When I wrote my curriculum to look for jobs, I asked her if she could print it out, and specifically asked her not to edit anything from it. She edited the entire format, re-typed things even thought they didn't need to be changed, and I noticed because she wrote it in a different order and left the words uncapitalized, added her phone number under references, which is supposed to be contact information for interviewers to call and ask others how I work.

I know it sounds like little things, but put together, and it being so frequently, it does get to me.

Submitted December 18, 2016 at 10:07PM by NikitaLitvinkov http://ift.tt/2hPhHAF