Weight concerns

How old are you and how familiar are you with RPW?

30, fairly familiar but still learning.

What is your relationship status?

Married, been with my man for 10 years!

What is the problem? (Don’t badmouth your SO!)

I'd like to preface by saying that my husband is an absolute dream. He is handsome, caring, kind, hilarious, highly intelligent, driven, charismatic... Swoon. :)

The problem is his weight. I'm concerned. He has steadily gained weight throughout our relationship and it has come to a point that I struggle to feel physically attracted to him, and worry about his health as well. He is not obese (I think) but is well on his way. Overeating, especially at night is his weakness and I have no idea how to deal with the situation.

How have you contributed to the problem?

Nobody is going to mistake me for a world class chef.. I do not enjoy cooking and have spent the majority of our relationship ordering takeout or whipping up less than healthy easy dinners. Also, I wouldn't exactly say that I'm a fitness guru. Before our child I was very active, but developed a sometime debilitating autoimmune disease that leave me struggling just to get out of bed most days, let alone stick with an exercise regimen. That sounds like an excuse... But I can do better and I am trying so hard.

How long has this been an issue?

It seems like the weight has fluctuated since we met, but has really become a problem in the past 5 years.

What have you done to resolve this problem?

Got my booty in the kitchen! I've really made an effort to cook healthy fresh meals for my family in the past year as often as our schedule allows. I also cook big batches of nutritious soups to keep in the deep freeze for busy days. I keep fresh fruit and vegetables on hand and limit the processed junk in the cabinet. Making an effort to get out and exercise. Need to work harder on this.

If married or in a committed, monogamous relationship: How long have you been together? 10 years Is your relationship long-distance? No Do you have an active bedroom life? Yes? It waxes and wanes but averages 2 times per week.

I don't want to change my husband. He is more than I could have ever hoped for in a partner and I adore him. I feel like his weight is a reflection of the lifestyle that I have imposed on him. Fortunately, I am naturally petite and have never had to worry about my own weight but take out and lazing on the couch has not been good for either of us.

He works 50+ hours a week, always has a home improvement project in the works, and still makes time for our child. I know he is often tired and has no drive to work out, and looks forward to vegging out with a pile of snacks after the family goes to bed. What can I do in this situation to gently lead him (and myself) into a healthier lifestyle?

Submitted December 18, 2016 at 12:27PM by mrppants http://ift.tt/2i42n22