Happy New Years reddit :)
I wanted to make this post so I can work towards having a better relationship with my mom, and hopefully she can change things going on with her life too. Also for the record I have an older brother he is a good bit older and lives in the UK with his girlfriend. I didn’t include him in the title since he is really busy.
Background: My parents marriage (From my perspective) started to get worse when my dad got a promotion to Vice President. And the way the company paid him was the better of a job he did the bigger his bonus would be. And a lot of times it was more than his salary. What that ended up causing was my dad just became a lot more of a focused person (he was already really focused) .
He would listen to Audio books on car rides. He would eat super healthy, sleep perfectly. And he wanted us as a family to be more efficient and that didn’t work out well. Because my mom, compared to my dad is lazy (Everyone except my brother is). And the other thing that caused problems was my dad would buy decently expensive gifts. My dad is an immigrant, and a lot of his family members buy their kids cheap clothes, so whenever there is a holiday, he will buy them good outfits ($200 for a birthday). And the other thing was he bought a really expensive Audi sports car that my mom hated.
But, that ended up causing them to break up, after my dad made more money, it just amplified the differences among them. My dad would have to work crazy hours/respond to emails even on vacations. So the sliver of free time he would get he would like to do what he actually liked and was often different from my mom.
After I left for college my dad divorced my mom. He resigned from being Vice President and now he is an artist. He also has a girlfriend, which isn’t surprising my dad has always been really charismatic and good looking for his age.
The problem though is that my mom hasn’t done so well since the divorce. She lives in a house all by herself. She says now that she doesn’t have a family with her she doesn’t like cooking anymore so she just eats junk. All of her friends, she just talks about how awful my dad is. She even tried to tell me that my dad was selfish in bed. Just this type of talk is really just repelling what friends she does have. Majority of our family friends liked our dad the most since he was the “life of the party” and her trying to talk about him in a negative way doesn’t do her any good.
Also the way she is talking about his girlfriend is just ridiculous. She seems to be fixated on the fact that she is younger. I don’t see why its such a big deal. I have met her, she was a lovely woman, at first I was worried she was with my dad for his money, but turns out she comes from a really wealthy family, went to an Ivy League school.
I have tried to help my mom out, simple things like trying to cook with her, or get her to join me in the gym. But she hasn’t. My parents have been divorced for 2.5 years now. and my mom still hasn’t moved on. AS a daughter I don’t know what else to do. Is this something I am supposed to just leave alone?
tl;dr- my parents divorced and my mom hasn’t bounced back.
Submitted December 31, 2016 at 04:16PM by fion2 http://ift.tt/2itwmEP
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