Although many would be quick to rule the relationship a teenage thing and they come and go mine has been very different. I feel like there is a bit of a maturity gap between us, and also a difference in goals. I am a highly motivated person and I seek to be successful often at the cost of my sleep balancing working, being an honors student, and am also a pretty accomplished athlete at the high school level. In her words I am: "different from me you just handle stress differently I cant do that".
She is a regular level student with over protective parents who don't really allow her any independence and for that reason she sleeps all day and has practice twice a week. Early in the relationship she would complain about my busy schedule and me not being able to constantly be on the phone with her but that soon subsided so she has much more down time than me. For this reason I constantly nudge her into finding a hobby or a job or just do something because when I do get a bit of free time sometimes I seek me time even an hour of playing a game helps and she expects it to all be directed to her because we're both free. I feel like our differences in family environment is also a factor I come from an extremely hard working set of parents where my father almost never works a regular 8 hour day and dedicated Sundays to his family and my mother is always doing something for me or my siblings, and runs her own small business. While on the other hand she comes from a home where her father complains a lot about work is never really with the family, and her mother is a stay at home mom who sometimes doesn't feel like cooking, and "never has time" or "doesn't feel like going out today". I feel as though this lazy attitude is also part of my girlfriend as she claims to be looking for a job, but hasn't applied anywhere in about 2 months.
She's also quick to give up on homework once it's 10pm or 9:30 because it's too hard and she'd rather waste time or just go right to sleep than claim she's stressed. She also has no motivation to figure out her college plans and expects me to help her plan it and help her find information and when I point her in the right direction she says something like: "I was hoping you'd do it for me" but she does want to go to college. She said middle class, and average are not bad things and an undergrad degree is all she really needs maybe even just an associates while i'm more of a Graduate Degree here I come!
She also likes to spend money a lot more than I do as I like to enjoy myself but see the value in saving for necessities like a car to get to and from school for me next year. Not to mention she's hyper jealous and until I spoke with her recently she had an issue with all my female friends and I lost a few because of it. I just feel like we aren't compatible now that I got to see all of these things from her. What rips my heart is she's so beautiful, and sweet, and so affectionate to me. She makes me feel happy, but I want to make sure I am happy in the long run too. What should I do? Do I break up with her? Or do I stay? I don't want baggage I want a partner.
tl;dr: Girlfriend and I have different goals in life, and are also on a bit of different maturity levels. Both are young. Do I leave?
Submitted March 08, 2017 at 09:58PM by ichystiz http://ift.tt/2mnD7sQ
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