After an argument with my husband this morning and meeting with my daughter's ADHD dr/therapist, I am realizing what an impact my adhd has on my life as a parent. My 2 year old has numerous food sensitivities due to a leaky gut, as does my 6 yr old and myself. Most of this is to be blamed for the lack of sleep at our house since my first was born. The way to fix this is through a strict diet that is designed to rebuild the gut so the body isn't going into attack mode every time I (breastfeeding) or my kids eat something. But it is extremely incompatible with my adhd. It is massively detail oriented (sourcing proper foods, supplements, tools), you have to plan ahead (can't eat anything prepackaged so no meals at restaurants, snacks at the store, etc), spend massive amounts of time cooking and doing repetitive tasks like cleaning because everything is made from scratch. We get a few weeks into it each time before I have a mental breakdown and quit because it is so time-consuming and mind numbing.
We try to do sleep training because my 6 yr old wakes up 7 times a night (and my toddler) but I'm so exhausted I can't stick with it. After listening to her cry in her room for 10 minutes I do whatever I can to get her to sleep. I can't stick with anything because of my fucking brain. Chore charts, discipline, etc. I say "no tv" for a week or something and then the next day she asks and I'm like "sure". My adhd kid needs routine but I can't make it because of my adhd. I feel like I do more harm than good. Is it possible to parent well with adhd without medication? Because of the sleep issues I have at most 30 minutes a day with my husband alone. So he's always upset with me about that. I seriously am at a fucking loss. I have no idea how to fix myself and my life and the kids I'm obviously screwing up.
Submitted February 01, 2017 at 11:16AM by NathanMorganDrake http://ift.tt/2ksqlc2
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