I met this woman (from another country) online about one year ago and we started sending email every now and then. After a few month we started chatting on Facebook but still quite rarely maybe once a month. Ours were only friendly chats. One time when chatting we started speaking about our travelling plans and it turned out that both of us had no one to travel with so in a funny way I said "well, let's travel together" and she accepted. On new year's eve we traveled for five days and there was some attraction between the two of us. We decided to try to be in a long distance relationship even though we knew if could be quite hard.
The main problem was that there was a lack of communication from her side. Her replies were quite slow and she was always saying that she was busy even though she had no job. Also she isn't a woman that likes chatting at the computer. Having understood this I tried a few times to speak about communication to have a sort of agreement to make both of us comfortable with it. I only tried to ask her how she would prefer to keep in touch and how frequently. I didn't try to impose anything. I was willing to compromise to make her comfortable. Despite this lack of communication I could see the interest from her side. She was sending me kissing faces and telling me that she missed me and she wanted to meet again. She seemed sincere.
One evening after speaking about the communication thing she texted me:
"I understand you too, it looks as if I am not interested, but believe me, that is not true. I will do my best to help it and got used to some things for this to work. I need some time. Sorry for all that. As far as we are couple we should adopt to each other, not just one of us. It would be unfair and... Well... As if it needs only one, which makes no sense."
The next morning she broke up with me with this message:
"I was thinking about how to tell it to you for long… But I can’t find right words, I’m sorry. I can’t do it easy and in a way that won’t hurt you. And it is not easy for me. It won’t work in a good anyway, so… I’m sorry. I really am. I like you very much, you’re a great man. We spend time so good together… I want you to remember only the best of it and our trip. But we should stop. I’m sorry again. Have a good luck, be the best student, find some good girl… Wish you only the best in your life."
And then she completely ignored my messages. Also, she is mad because I said that I felt deceived by her. She sent only one message to tell me that I don't know her and that there won't be further discussion. She hasn't deleted me yet from her friends in Facebook though
My opinion is that she was very confused and that she couldn't handle the pressure of a long distance relationship. She definitely has some problems with stress. Even during our holidays she would smoke a lot and sometimes to relieve stress as she admitted. To me she didn't seem depressed but for example she told me that she was arguing with her family for many small reasons related to food, cooking, behavior, noise and so on and that was making it difficult for her to keep living with them. Also her family has some economic problems so maybe that is stressful for her too. I felt deceived by her behavior especially because I treated her very well and I said multiple times that if she felt like something was wrong between the two of us she could tell me.
What do you think about her behavior?
To me she looks quite immature for her age to be honest.
tl;dr: Long Distance girlfriend broke up with me out of nowhere. She went overnight from "I am really interested in you, I miss you" to "I am sorry but we should stop". Why?
Submitted February 01, 2017 at 05:15AM by jakeherehere http://ift.tt/2jUo7PB
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