I moved out of state almost 2 years ago. Before that, my sister and I were super close, but things have been on the decline now that she is planning her wedding. She asked me to be the maid of honor, which I accepted, although completely unprepared both financially and mentally. The dress she picked for the wedding party is $250. I wasn't thrilled about the price, but it is nice and she adores it, so I didn't complain. But now she wants a bridal shower, which I originally thought we would just have in my parents house and do most of the cooking ourselves. Well that wasn't enough because all her friends had showers in restaurants with fancy food. So there goes more time spent trying to find another place and $500. (Plus a gift?? I don't even no what the norm here is) But it doesn't stop there, she also wants a bachelorette. Not just and party though, a week long trip to Mexico. Another $1200 here, plus food and drinks.
Now, I know she is my sister and I really am trying my best to be supportive but I find all these pre wedding parties absolutely ridiculous. Every time I try to talk her into something else she always uses the "well my friends did [extravagant thing] so why shouldn't I?". This whole experience is really turning me off to weddings. It all just feels like a ploy to get your friends and family to shower you with countless gifts and cash. And to one up all the other weddings you have been to.
After all these expenses I won't be able to afford to give a gift at the wedding. I'm worried this is just going to cause more tension between us. Any ideas on how to approach this topic? The pre wedding parties have yet to happen, though I haven't had much luck trying to convice her to opt for something cheaper. I'm so turned off by the idea of all these wedding parties that just talking about them with her makes me want nothing to do with the wedding.
TL;DR extravagant pre wedding parties are putting a wedge between my sister and I and I don't know how to approach her about it.
Submitted January 31, 2017 at 06:02PM by epiccatechin http://ift.tt/2jSWFnF
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