So I've been dating a girl for a few months. She is EXTREMELY outgoing, charming, and charismatic. Also very intelligent, in professional school, and attractive.
When we started dating, she told me that she found out her last bf cheated on her and had a hidden cocaine habit and that she has trouble trusting people now. Also, her father passed away tragically and since then she has been in therapy and taking daily medication for ADHD and depression.
She always goes above and beyond for me, including cooking, cleaning my place, bringing me coffee at work, etc. These things all seemed a bit much to me, but nobody had ever done these things before so it feels pretty good. Anyways, she's always telling me how amazing I am all the time and is very affectionate.
Two days ago, she somehow forgot to get her prescriptions filled and the doctor/pharmacist was gone for the weekend. I helped her drive around trying to get it filled, but to no avail. I told her I would get her through it and stay with her all weekend. She thanked me.
Yesterday, she invited some friends over to her place and so did I. Everyone was drinking, and so was she. She started being really short with me and bossing me around in front of others, which I did not like. I took her in the kitchen in private and said "I know you are feeling off without your meds right now and I'm here to support you, but that is not an excuse to treat me like shit, especially in front of others". She looked at me with pure anger and said "I can't believe you're throwing my meds in my face like that!"
For the rest of the day, she continually got drunker and drunker and meaner. We were paddle boarding in the water as a group, and she started yelling at me any time I got near her, calling me an asshole, saying to get the f*ck away from her, saying she can't believe how big of a jerk I am and she never thought I was like this, etc etc. This was all in front of our friends and some of her cousins. Everyone, including myself, just kind of shut down. I was so shocked I didn't even know what to say.
Afterwards, everyone left except her cousin and I. I was honestly afraid she would hurt herself if left alone without her meds, so I stayed. She pulled me into the bathroom and started yelling at me about what an a-hole I was being, literally getting in my face and being aggressive the whole time.
At this point, I let her fall asleep and had a conversation with her cousin who said to me "She gets drunk like this sometimes, she'll forget about it tomorrow".
So I wake up and leave without saying anything, thinking that she will apologize the next day. Nope. She calls me and tells me what an asshole I was yesterday, and that I knew she was off her meds and should have been more careful.
Only after telling her all the things that she said and how unacceptable it was did she apologize, but always with the caveat "but you were being an asshole too".
This, to me, is a deal-breaker. She is guilting me really hard about how she was off her meds and I need to support her through those times, and that she's a passionate person and that's what makes her love me so much too and do so many things for me. She called herself a "firecracker" whatever the hell that is.
I know everyone has bad days, but holy crap. I'm 99% sure I'm going to dump her, I just need outside validation on this because quite frankly, I'm too embarrassed to explain what happened to my friends.
tl;dr: GF is on meds for ADHD and depression. Ran out of meds for the weekend, completely flipped out on me publicly, mostly blames me for her behaviour. Probably going to dump her.
Submitted February 28, 2017 at 04:04PM by 23889throwaway http://ift.tt/2m4yKTF
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