It was a pleasant Sunday afternoon. I've been going to church with some friends for about a month. After service we had a big chili cooking contest. Everyone got to try 9 different kinds of chili before voting. The contest was great but I stayed around a little longer to talk to friends. And then I starting to this one girl. We'll call her Jane.
Jane and I had a fun conversation and we ended up exchanging numbers. We texted and FaceTimed each other on top of seeing each other at church. I told her I wanted to go out with her, but she was getting over a guy and didn't want a relationship at the moment.
Fast forward a month later. We last texted a week prior before seeing each other at church. We held each other during service and I asked her to be my girlfriend that night. She said yes!
We were a loving couple. We kissed one time, went to events with each other, and texted every single day. We FaceTimed and texted when she was in Hawaii for Christmas. When she had her birthday while on vacation I congratulated her and told her how much I loved her. When she got back we exchanged gifts.
However, Jane is a Mormon and she's at the age where she wants to go on her mission. She wants it more than anything in the world and nothing will change her mind. We talked about it and I told her to go for it no matter what, even if that jeopardizes our relationship.
At the same time, some of her old friends are going to our congregation now. They don't know that we were dating and one of them, she told me, was a guy she's known for 6 years and is the typical friend zoned guy, the guy who allows a woman to cry on his shoulder while secretly liking her. She's told me that she's been casually dating him.
2 days ago, after church, we had a long talk. She told me that our life circumstances aren't right because of her mission and we can't be together. She told me that she's going on her mission in a couple of months and she won't be back for a year and a half. I told her I would love to start dating again when she gets back. She said she doesn't know because I might have found someone else by that time. But she still wants to make time with me to be friends.
Since church is the only place I see her, I decided I won't be back at church for a while until I clear my head. I've been going to the gym and hanging out with friends to get over the hurt. She says she understands how I feel about it but that our breakup shouldn't stop me from going to church.
We share a lot of things in common and there was really a lot of love there. I'm a deist/skeptic but I'm not trying to force her to leave her religion. She told me that if I ever come, it shouldn't be because I like the people. It should be because I'm seeking a spiritual connection with the Lord.
We ended our relationship on a good note but I won't talk to her again until I feel like I'm ready. She is my first love and she still has a special place in my heart. Is there any chance that we may get back together after her mission trip?
TL/DR: my first gf is going on a mission so we stopped dating. Will we get back together?
Submitted January 24, 2017 at 09:55AM by RukiVverkh4760 http://ift.tt/2knSWQs
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