Been married for three years now. She was wonderful and we were happy! We were best friends. I was truly in love and I felt things couldn't get any better.
That all ended two years ago. Slowly but surely our sex life became a memory to me. I tried talking to her about it. I tried to implement different strategies. We read about love languages and was literally scoffed at when the test we took together came back with my love language being physical affection. I worked her love language like there was no tomorrow.
I was constantly working out, doing chores, cooking, laundry, ironing, running out to get her random treats, flowers, and gifts. I made sure to use words of affirmation on a regular basis. None of it made an impact. I treated her like a queen and when I calmly talked to her about the lack of reciprocation...she says I'm making a big deal out of nothing and that the friendship we have should be enough.
The feelings are nearly overwhelming at this point. I feel worthless, like less of a man. I miss the warmth of a touch, the dirty talk, the naughty pictures, and the regular intimacy that were hallmarks of our pre-marriage relationship.
So where do I go from here? My friend offered to hook me up with some kik/snapchat lady friends of his, and I'm very tempted to take him up on it. I want to give my wife another chance, but she's repeatedly shot down counseling for one reason or another. It looks to me like divorce is in the cards, but for whatever reason...it kinda scares me.
Thanks for letting me vent. Getting these words out has really helped.
Submitted March 08, 2017 at 11:21PM by DesperateDB http://ift.tt/2m1isY4
No comments:
Post a Comment