My husband and I have been married a little over 5 years. We were great the first 3 years or so and the last year and a half has been a little tough. We almost split completely a few months ago, but decided to work it out on the condition he make an effort to take care of himself better.
Basically, he is dependent on me to feed him, take him to/from work, etc. he helps around the house, which is great, but it's so stressful when I have to put plans on hold or cut them short to pick him up from work when he could have taken the bus home. I have enabled this behavior, so I'm partly to blame.
Well now he is making a true effort to take care of himself. This morning he jumped on the bus at 5AM to get to work. I felt so bad that he had to do that. Last night my car broke down, but before it did I was telling him that I would just take him before I went to work. He insisted he personally wanted to make the effort to get himself to work. He has even been cooking his meals at home when I'm gone.
While I'm glad, I also can't shake the feeling of guilt. He isn't even acting inconvenienced or anything. He seems to truly be okay with doing it. He left 45 min ago and I still feel bad.
How can I stand by my decision without feeling bad?
TD;LR: Enabled husband's codependent behavior and then asked for him to be more independent. He has been making a true effort and now I feel guilty.
Submitted March 01, 2017 at 06:43AM by so_not_who_I_am http://ift.tt/2m7CjZx
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