I work at home and am home all day. This is the first year our kids (K and 2nd grade) are at school full time. My wife is a stay-at-home mom.
We've talked in the past about how she would get a job when the kids are in school for a little extra money (I make pretty good money, but extra wouldn't hurt). She hasn't really looked seriously other than poking around a bit.
I really love my wife and overall we have a great relationship, but lately I find myself frustrated with how she spends her time.
She has about 6 solid hours where the kids are at school. Our house is kept sorta clean, but it's not that great. I don't do much housework and she does the bulk of it, but often she doesn't even wipe the counters- or the kids breakfast just sits there all day. She does do all of the laundry for us. She reads a lot of books during the day.
I do all the cooking for dinners, and most of the grocery shopping and yard work/harder house maintenance. I also work full time. I'm very involved with the kids and helpful there.
I don't really mind that she isn't looking for a job, but maybe she could take on having a super clean house instead? Or maybe she can become a big couponer and save us money that way? Just having some kind of aim that benefits the family other than working out and reading books.
It's a hard thing to talk to her about without sounding like a jerk, so I just kind of keep it bottled up. But then it comes out in weird ways when she asks me to do something during the work day and I am frustrated. Or I'll go downstairs and see dishes everywhere during the day and say something about it.
tl;dr: Am I a jerk for expecting my wife to do more around the house since she's a stay at home mom?
Submitted March 08, 2017 at 01:15PM by westcoast82 http://ift.tt/2nfwlTH
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