I'm a student, she's a cosmetologist. We do co-habitate. Because she works weekends, we have no off days in common. In a typical week, we get about 23 hours together (as few as ~17 during busy weeks for me, as many as ~27 during slow weeks), much of which is spent doing things like cooking, eating, cleaning, handling hygiene, and preparing for work and school.
In a usual week, we have Sunday morning and evening, Monday and Tuesday evening (afternoon if we're lucky), and Saturday morning together, and nothing else.
I have a very clear role in the issue, as I do have a certain "need" for me-time after spending 12+ hours at school. Things like mindlessly staring at the TV, redditing, or playing a video game, low mental impact activities to nurse my mental exhaustion. Obviously, my girlfriend is upset by the fact that when she gets off work, after we talk about her day, I'd rather zone out than talk about her favorite YouTubers or things of similar consequence. (While typing this out, one solution becomes apparent: getting home earlier on days that she'll be home late, allowing me to clear my mental fog before she gets home. Shocked I haven't done this yet.)
What tips/anecdotes (personal or otherwise) do you have that could help us handle this situation?
tl;dr: I miss my girlfriend but I'm kind of selfish and I'd like to fix both things.
ETA: I'm also seeking employment (seasonal job ended last week), which is a real pain in the ass, but has to happen. Should tank our time spent together until summer.
Submitted March 08, 2017 at 01:33PM by Plj8eT4gBwIG http://ift.tt/2mGUsxT
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