Am I, is this normal???

I am new to Reddit so please forgive me if I break any rules as this is my first post.

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have two littles together and we both work full time. I always considered our sex life to be fairly normal, in the beginning it was hot and heavy of course but settled into a normal range as time went on, there were even times where I felt like I was definitely more horny than him on average. About three years ago he started messing with steroids. He has always been into working out and thought it would help him get a boost. Well about a year in on and off various cycles, he started to get pretty sexually demanding and we started to fight about our sex life because basically he felt like he wasn't getting it enough, I wasn't as into it as I should be, or it wasn't of the quality that he preferred. Mind you in this time I had returned to work full time and we have two young children. My day consists of working eight hours, coming home, cooking, homework, baths and then bedtime routine. So to accomodate him I started helping him have an orgasm (hand job) or having sex every freaking day whether I wanted to or not. Eventually this wasn't good enough because it wasn't a long drawn out sexscapade. Presently it is only satisfying for him if he goes down on me which takes about 20 minutes or longer depending on my mood and then we have sex for another 20 minutes. After a long day sometimes you just don't feel like going for the gold, do you know what I mean.... I know the steroids contribute to his horniness and I have asked him to stop which he does, feels like shit then gets back on because he feels like shit and consequently also has NO LIBIDO! I'm telling you it is all or nothing with him.

Recently I found out he was signed up to a swingers site soliciting us to other couples. I did not agree to this and when I confronted him he denied it and made up like 100 stories about it.

I'm afraid all of this is going to end this relationship. I still love him and I want our family to stay together. I just can't live like this anymore.

Submitted February 28, 2017 at 04:11PM by AiliD http://ift.tt/2lmkHok