And like my grandfather, uncle, older brother, male father figure, like I always used to say: when in doubt, have a cookie, then take an action. The action was usually to get some vanilla ice cream.
I've been looking for a while, and I'll continue to look as long as it takes. I'm looking for something long term primarily, but in the mean time I don't mind things that are casual.
What's most important to me is that I find someone on the same level. That is a desire to explore, someone comfortable with being kinky, with themselves... a hedonist. After all, I am a hedominist!
What the hell is a 'hedominist'?
So glad you asked!
A hedominst is someone who's a hedonist first, and a dominant second (a close second). I'm not into too many restrictions (though I am into obedience), nor am I into masochism (though I do like being rough with my toys).
I'm (patiently) looking for a partner. Ideally I'd find someone I could start a 'committed' relationship with, but I keep an open mind and like to see where things take me.
While kink is incredibly important to me don't be fooled that it's the be-all-end-all because I'm posting on a BDSM personal board. Kink is one piece of the very important relationship-pie (or cake, or brownie, whichever sweet you're into (I'd recommend the vanilla bread pudding or skillet cookie). The other pieces that I'm looking for in a person, and embody in myself are: communication, sense of humor, and introspection. All are equally important to me.
Who is 'me'? Well... I'm a bit of a character. Kind of paradoxical, I'm very much into self-exploration (part of why I'm kinky in the first place). I love to laugh and make others laugh; my sense of humor is all over the place, I love shitty innuendo and stupid puns. My friends describe me as a 'white knight,' at times as I care for others quite a bit, even strangers. Not many ladies who meet me think 'there's a guy who wants to bend me over the kitchen counter and fuck my ass while I confess all the slutty things I've done and fantasies I've had.'
But it's true, I very much want to do that (especially on Saturdays in the morning). :D
I'm a very accepting and open minded person, I don't judge myself or others, even if it's something I dislike. So long as you aren't harming anyone or thing: I respect your choice to do it. I think this is an important attitude to have in kink, as we are all just trying to pursue and live our fantasies and curiosities.
Other buzz words for me: cooking, spiritual, philosophy, intelligent, creative, high-drive, movie-watcher (and quoter).
I'm very much a birds of a feather as opposed to opposites. I'd rather share more with my partner than not, but I certainly enjoy having my own space, and hobbies (not everything has to be shared).
As far as kink is concerned I'm looking for a hedonist first, and a submissive/slave second. That is to say, while I want someone who loves and lives to be submissive, to obey and follow orders, I want that person to also enjoy being feisty, and demanding. An example: I expect our initiation rate to be 50/50.
You see for me, service subs, and consent are the sexiest thing about D/s. The fact that you're choosing to submit, to become a sexual slave or object of sorts without coercion or force, that's incredible. When I call you a slut it's a word of praise, not something to offend. In fact, even outside kink I don't call a girl a slut unless it's a compliment anymore (just realized this).
Anyway, I also want someone with a very dirty mind; kink and sex are about exploration, and I have a lot of exploring I want to do with someone.
I'm not looking for strict, total-power-exchange 24/7, though I do picture being able to have free use, forced nudity zones around the home, as well as being able to slide in and out of our roles at our leisure. At the end of the day though, I view this, and kink, as an incredible hobby that will bring us closer together as people, rather than as a way of life.
My top kinks: service submission, anal, cum play, fashion play, face fucking, free use, role-play and extreme dirty talk.
I also spend the most time on r/gonewildstories r/stupidslutsclub and r/sluttyconfessions
My limits: cutting, blood, scat, brats, masochists, needles.
If you're intrigued and wondering if you're my type, beyond embodying the four things I'm looking for that I mentioned above, I'm looking for someone with passion. Someone who puts their ego aside. I think the key to a relationship is having two people who don't care about who's right or who's wrong, but rather care about the relationship. I look for someone who can say 'yes' and play along, and someone who wants to take care of me as much as be taken care of.
Physically, I'm 5'9, 165 pounds, white skin, brown hair, green eyes.
So you're interested? That's great. Send me a message and mirror the info I put here. Plan on connecting over some safe, anonymous messenger (think Kik) and taking it from there. I'm definitely looking to meet people who are comfortable enough to meet in real life (if we find there's attraction and chemistry).
Thank you for reading; I wish you happy holidays and happier kink!
Submitted January 01, 2017 at 05:51AM by aHedonist http://ift.tt/2ilJprn
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